'...everything's made to be broken...'

[marguerite_krux]

My parents have informed me that I am no longer welcome in their home.

They don't want to 'put up with me' anymore.

I have a week to make alternate living arrangments.

FML. When will it all just goddamn end?

Comments

[sunkrux.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry sweetie. Wish I could do more than send you virtual hugs and my support and love. :( *hugs*

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

*sniffles and snuggles close to you* Thank god my relatives are so awesome. I have three different houses I could go to, so I'm not homeless on the streets atm. But I'm feeling so discouraged and lost right now, it's...yeah, really bad. *sighs*

[mcgarrygirl78.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear that Annie, I really am. Thankfully there is someplace for you to go, and maybe grow. I dont understand how a parent could ever do something like that to a child, especially one as awesome as you......that awesomeness should be nurtured. But you will live somewhere and that's a good thing. I wish I could say dont let this get you down but of course it will. Hopefully this tough experience will have a silver lining.

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

I have options, which is a relief- and I think will make me much happier in the long run. I'm more upset at the way I'm leaving my parents than the fact that I am leaving.

To be realistic, I don't think I'd have managed to get out on my own without a boot kicking me in the ass, y'know? I'm so terrified of change, of leaving the nest and dealing with different circumstances, that I'd've clung to them for as long as possible, and it's probably better that I am getting out now and exploring my options.

[mw48.livejournal.com]

~squishes you tight~

Is there a friend you can crash while you look for your own place?

~is concerned~

Please look after yourself.

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

*squishes back* It's better than it would've been, I have a great family, my grandmother's offered to let me stay with her, so it's all good.

I really am much happier with her than I have been with my parents, so it's worked out well, actually, which is rather stunning to me, because I kinda thought the sky had fallen in and the world was collapsing, but there you go!

[kat-rowe.livejournal.com]

*hugs you* hang in there, sweetheart, and let me know if you need to talk. just remember to breathe

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

You know, when it happened, I was just- completely numb. And barely shed a tear at all. I think it's telling, really, 'coz I'm the biggest crybaby around. It sucks that it's happened this way, but I think I really am relieved at getting to leave them behind. Because it's been so stressful and now I can move on. I can breathe easier now.

[spence-reid.livejournal.com]

I am so so sorry! What happened? *hugs tight* Good luck. Keep your chin up, okay?

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Ugh, just the usual suckitude that is my life. Failure, disappointing people, doom and gloom. *sighs*

Thanks, spence, I appreciate the moral support. *squishes*

[franblack.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear that sweetie. I don't understand how can your parents do that to you, it's so wrong.

*hugs*

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

*hugs back* It was rather a huge shock at the time, but I guess I pushed them to their limits. *sighs* Still, it wasn't pleasant being with them the past couple weeks after they found out about my lying about uni, so getting out of the house is probably for the best.

[lone-pyramid.livejournal.com]

Ouch. *hugs*

I'm glad to see you have other family to turn to. I know it's incredibly painful right now, but in the long run maybe it'll be better to be out of that situation for a while? You seem pretty stressed where you are, so maybe a change of scenery will be beneficial.

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

It's terrible that it happened this way, but really, I'm so much happier when I'm with my other relatives- I love my mother, but my father and I have a really tense relationship, it's not a good place to be, so yeah, it is rather a relief, actually, once I got over the whole 'omg!flail' aspect of it, y'know?

[halfabubble.livejournal.com]

*huggles*

I'm relieved you have some places to stay in the meantime. My heart dropped when I read and thought you'd have nowhere to go. I would offer mine if I wasn't..y'know...on the other side of the world.

You should just remember that your parents are only doing this cos they think to teach you a lesson - the consequences of your actions or whatever - they think its for the greater good of your own self in the long run. No matter what bullshit they say as an excuse. Doesn't mean they love you any less - that stuff is unconditional, trust - parents can just have a really fucked up way of going about things sometimes. Both me and my bro have been kicked out before - it's not nice I know. Stay strong, k? I am here 24/7 if you ever want to vent :)

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

*huggleglomps* I've received quite a few offers from the flist- too bad I'm not in a position to take anyone up on it, I'd have a blast getting together with you guys! I mean, what an amazing silver lining that would be!

Yeah, you've made a lot of good points there. I'm actually worried that this whole 'you can't live with us' thing is just a lesson they're trying to teach- I don't want them to take it back, I don't want to go back and live with them anyway, but now I'm getting this ominous feeling that it would be just like them to pull a mindfrak like that. My grandmother wants to have a talk with my mother before I actually pack up and move in with her, and I'm really hoping nothing changes- I WANT to live with her.

If all this is just a big game to teach me a lesson, I'm gonna be so shitty, honestly. Because my relatives keep saying how unlikely it is that my parents would kick me out- partly becuse they LOVE ME soooo much and partly because they wouldn't want to burden my relatives by handing me off to them- so...*quivers nervously*

parents can just have a really fucked up way of going about things sometimes

WORD X INFINITY.

Dude, you've been kicked out? O.O So did you patch things up and move in with them again or are you out for good?

*squishes tight* Thanks for the support, darling, I really appreciate that. Couldn't make it though my mental breakdowns without that, lol.

PS. Thanks for the milk and cookies, hee, just what I needed! :D

[seizard.livejournal.com]

The same thing just happened to my 18-year-old cousin, a week before Christmas. It was the best thing that could have happened to her. (Well, other than having parents who loved and accepted her and didn't try to control her every thought.)

I don't know your situation, but I can only hope it will work out for the best. And if you're ever in my neck of the woods, we have a spare bedroom for a couple more months!

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Oh, ouch- my sympathies for your cousin. Hope she landed on her feet and that things worked out for her. Jeez, just before Christmas, too. Wow. *shakes head*

And lol at your bracket point, yes, ITA. That would be pleasant, wouldn't it? Everyone in the world should have one pair of those kind of parents, it'd make life way better. *sighs*

Lol, thanks for the offer, hon, that's very kind! *squishes*

[luxuria-oceanus.livejournal.com]

What the frak? *reads previous entry* Oh, sweetie... *squishes oh-so-very-tightly*

If that's the way they want to be, boo on them. If they can't accept the fact that you have a different thing in mind for your future, whatever that may or may not be, if they can't try to help you, to encourage you, to support you, in a positive manner, BOO ON THEM.

I skimmed through some of the comments, anxious to know if you AT LEAST had somewhere to go, so thank goodness for that, but know that whatever happens, you have FAMILY. I'm no good as a long-distance family member, but I'll be here for you for as long as my braincells keep kicking, and I adore you, so don't let this shit keep you down---you're far too important, to me and to yourself, don't forget that.

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

*clings to you* Belated thanks for your message of support, bb. Honestly, my flist is the bestest ever. I just really needed to hear this, and it's so appreciated, honestly. ILU. *huggles*

[sharpes-hussy.livejournal.com]

I don't know what to say.............but just to ******HUG***** you

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Thanks, hon. *hugs back*

[labrt2004.livejournal.com]

Oh my god, honey, I'm so sorry! I've been out of the loop lately so I didn't know things had gotten this bad. If I were one the same continent as you, I'd offer my own place up in a heart beat. Do you have any plans made? Please keep us posted so we don't worry. Are you sure your parents weren't just being bitchy? Sometimes, my dad tells me to get out of his house too, but I don't really.

*sends good thoughts and hugs

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Hee, I do wish we were in the same hemisphere, I would love to hang out with you! *squishes*

Things aren't as bad as they seemed. It was a huge shock but having the support of my family made it all better. And in fact, the idea of leaving my parents behind to stay with my grandmotehr is such a dream come true. I've always wanted to get away from the parents but never thought it would be possible, and this kicking me in the ass is actually a bit of a mixed blessing, because I get to do what I've wanted for so long. Get away from that stress and pressure and unhappiness and just be free.

But yeah, unfortunately, there's a family council happening before I can actually leave, obviously Ma wants to speak with my mother and check out the situation. I really really don't want her to convince them to take me back, I don't WANT to go back, I'd be so much happier with my grandmother...

[luisa-f.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I've been there (with the dropping out of uni without telling anyone, for a year), you will make it. You parents might stay pissed at you for life, though, parents can be grudgy like that.

I wish we didn't live on opposite extremes of the world. I would make room for you.

[alyssa22.livejournal.com]

Don't you love that? My mother behaves ridiculously in public and I say to the young people around "you see that? It never gets better, no matter how old you get!"

[silentwilight.livejournal.com]

I am so very sorry this happened, you dont deserve that :(
:HUGS:

Do you think theres any way this situation will change? Was it just a huge fight that got blow out of proportion or has this been coming for awhile now?

I'm so sorry :( Keep us updated!

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Thanks, hon. *hugs you*

Well, they were quite calm when they said those things, that they didn't want me around anymore, but IDK, there's supposed to be another 'family council' happening, so who knows.

I really am quite okay now with what's happened, though, so it's not as bad as it seems, I'm happy to stay with my grandmother, I think life would be so much better.

Will do! *salutes*

[anuna-81.livejournal.com]

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry. *hugs*

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

*hugs back* Yeah, it was rather a huge shock at the time, but I think I'm going to be okay, I think it's all going to turn out well. And it's been a long time since I've felt like that, hopeful.

[weird-fin.livejournal.com]

Oh, *hugs* *HUGS* *hugs* *hugs*
I'm so shocked to hear that! :|
I saw your other comment that your other relatives are awesome.

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Hee. I gotta say, your icon brought a smile to my face. I have no idea what's happening there, but :D

Thanks for all the hugs! *squishes you*

I do so love my relatives, they make me feel good about myself, like, I may be a screw-up but they love me anyway, y'know? Whereas with the parents, it's always like my worth to them is wrapped up in my achievements. >:[

[odakota-rose.livejournal.com]

Holy crap. *hugs tight* I really wish you didn't live so far away or I'd just have you move in. You gonna stay with other, non-sucky family then? Let me know if you need anything...

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

That would be too good to be true, you know? Getting to live with one of my fangirl BFFs? No way life would ever be that awesome. But I can dream...*sighs wistfully* Remember I actually had that dream once where I was staying at your place for the holidays? LOL. My brain must've filled in a lot of blanks for that! Oh, and there was the time we went on vacation to Fiji. O.o Ah, the illogic of dreams...

Thanks for the support, bb. *hugs you* I'm good for now. I'm actually relieved at the idea of leaving the parents behind, y'know? They're not at fault, really, we're just too different in terms of principles and ambitions and all that, and it causes so much friction and tension. Living with Ma is what I've always wanted. And I think I needed this boot on the ass to get me to accomplish it. Silver lining!

[woodchoc-magnum.livejournal.com]

Oh my god.

You can come and live with me if you want - it's a little out of your way, but... I feel so bad for you. :(

Oh sweetie. *hugs tight*

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the offer, darling. *squishes* If I could, I totally would take you up on that. *daydreams* Sadly, life would never treat me that well- can't let me too happy. *sighs* I appreciate all the cheering up you've been doing for me lately, you always make me feel happier, you know that? *luffs*

[fragilemorning.livejournal.com]

Wow. Parents are just amazing. *rolleyes*
:HUG:

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Yah. Don't you just love 'em? /sarcasm.

*hugs back*

[lilsmiles86.livejournal.com]

NO! You're not allowed to be homeless!!!!! If I could I'd fly you out and you could crash at my place... But I have no money :( BOO!!!! I hope everything works out for you, my dear! *virtual squishes*

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Hee, that's a brilliant idea, I'd love for you to fly me over! *daydreams of fangirling together in person* That thought cheers me up, lol.

Thanks for the support, bb. *hugs you*

[dragonladyk.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I know this is hard and awful and painful and all of those things. I know support and sympathy aren't pragmatically helpful, but you have them.

Still, this could end up being a very good thing, being out of your parents' house. Controlling your own life instead of having it controlled for you through punishments and expectations and what basically ammounts to headgames... is freeing in a way I can't even describe to you. Making your own money that no one can tell you how to spend; knowing that everything around you is yours and that YOU have made this place for yourself with your own hard work and your own strength and your own struggle; having no one to answer to or tell you you're being irresponsible if you have ice cream for dinner because you want to or call you crazy for putting an extra lock on your door -- it's empowering and wonderful and almost magic and worth all of the stresses and strains and worries and fears. Every woman should experience it for at least a few years, in my opinion, because after that no one can tell you you're helpless without them and be believed.

DragonLady

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Support and sympathy are the foundation on which I build my life, pretty much, don't underestimate it. *hugs*

I was kinda...numb, I think, when all this broke out, but then all of you guys kept reassuring me that things would work out and this was for the best- and you know what? I really think it is. It's not just a trite expression, I mean, the way this came about wasn't ideal by any standards, but it provided the momentum I needed to get out from under my parents' thumb, which I don't think I could've managed without drastic measures.

Controlling your own life instead of having it controlled for you through punishments and expectations and what basically ammounts to headgames

This, exactly. Although, living with my grandmother isn't exactly a blazing declaration of independence, lol, but I don't care how it looks, just the prospect of being free of their rules...it makes me dizzy to contemplate such a future. It makes me happy.

no one can tell you you're helpless without them and be believed

That's what I've always feared, I've always been so sheltered and so unwilling to creep out of my comfy niche, but getting out and doing my own thing could be the best thing to happen to me, regardless of how it came to pass. *nodnod*

[sunny-serenity.livejournal.com]

OH! Honey, I'm sorry. *HUGS* Jeez, they only give you two weeks? Normally you get like 30 days... Yikes. If only we were on the same continent and I didn't live with my folks... *SOOPER DOOPER HUGGLES*

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Lol, they were only like that 'coz they know I have awesome relatives who will take me in- no way in the ordinary scheme of things would I be able to find somewhere to live that quickly! I love my grandmother, so getting to live with her is actually quite amazing and totally trumps all the trauma of what happened with the parents. :D

*admires your icon*

I haven't seen HBP, but in the clips I've seen of Harry and Hermione where he's comforting her? They're so comfortable together, it's seriously adorable. I laugh at the people that say that very cosiness is apparently proof that they aren't interested in each other. *snorts* Because if they were secretly harboring romantic feelings, apparently Harry would have to act like an asshat and hurt her feelings and be totally unsympathetic and oblivious to her. Riiight. Because THAT is real romance, yo. *gags*

Sorry. Impromptu rant, don't know where that came from. It's just- H/Hr were my first ship and it's so annoying to me still the way that canon screwed them over, even if I have moved on.