talking to someone who is not emotionally invested can at least help you relieve some of the emotional baggage
That's exactly what I think. I don't expect counselors to magically make problems disappear or make you a better person, but even with people that care about you- maybe especially with loved ones- you can't talk to them about everything. Sometimes it's the things that make you feel like a terrible person or like you've failed in some way, or just the petty, spiteful things that we all think but don't say, because we don't want people we respect to think less of us. It's a relief getting that out with someone who has no expectations of you.
I know what you're going through and I wish there was a way I could show you that you're going to be okay and in ten years everything will be so much better and this will be nothing but a bad memory.
You know, just talking to you convinces me that things will be okay. Because I seem to be re-treading the path you took and look at you, I think you turned out well. ;D It's a hopeful sign to me that you also ditched uni, did your own thing and found your own way in the end. If I turn out anything like you, it'll be all right.
And there's the idea these days that you absolutely need to have your career locked in by your early 20s, but I'm young, and I have the rest of my life to figure it out and pull it together, so I'm not going to feel guilty anymore for being clueless about where I want to go. After being submerged in self-loathing and misery for so long, I think I'm finally starting to just let go of it all and hoping for the best. It's a nice feeling.
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Date: 2010-03-29 11:41 pm (UTC)That's exactly what I think. I don't expect counselors to magically make problems disappear or make you a better person, but even with people that care about you- maybe especially with loved ones- you can't talk to them about everything. Sometimes it's the things that make you feel like a terrible person or like you've failed in some way, or just the petty, spiteful things that we all think but don't say, because we don't want people we respect to think less of us. It's a relief getting that out with someone who has no expectations of you.
I know what you're going through and I wish there was a way I could show you that you're going to be okay and in ten years everything will be so much better and this will be nothing but a bad memory.
You know, just talking to you convinces me that things will be okay. Because I seem to be re-treading the path you took and look at you, I think you turned out well. ;D It's a hopeful sign to me that you also ditched uni, did your own thing and found your own way in the end. If I turn out anything like you, it'll be all right.
And there's the idea these days that you absolutely need to have your career locked in by your early 20s, but I'm young, and I have the rest of my life to figure it out and pull it together, so I'm not going to feel guilty anymore for being clueless about where I want to go. After being submerged in self-loathing and misery for so long, I think I'm finally starting to just let go of it all and hoping for the best. It's a nice feeling.