'It was like it wasn't even me doing it. It must be all those new vampire impulse control issues!'

[marguerite_krux]

How do you repel a guy without being totally rude about it? I feel like such a shrew, but this guy at the library keeps talking to me and it's driving me nuts! 

Dear Random Guy in the Library,

Just because we sit next to each other at the only two computers available does not mean that we're friends.

It doesn't signify my permission to make me suffer through your endless inane conversation and trips down crazy lane.

I don't know what gave you the impression that we're friends. I never encouraged it, that's for sure.

How nice for you that you overheard the librarian refer to me by name, but if I wanted you to address me by name, I'd've introduced myself. And btw, doesn't it strike you as telling that I never once struck up a conversation of my own accord? Does it suggest that perhaps I had no interest in making your acquaintace?

And also, you idiot, if you're that sold on the idea that we're buds, why don't I know your name? Not that I want to, but doesn't that fact suggest that something's amiss? I never cared to ask. Though if you were more socially aware, maybe you'd've told me before now, you twit. That's what normal people would do.

But I guess you're not exactly conversant with normality. Cackling at your computer and muttering to yourself, that's just disturbing, okay? It worries me. I wonder if you're going off the deep end when you pull that crazy act.  

Though I'd've rathered you kept on with that instead of always talking to me when I clearly have better things to do than waste my time, humoring you and your idiosyncracies.

I don't want tell you about my background [but no, neither I nor my parents are from the Middle East].

I don't need you to enlighten me on Marxist theory, nor do I want you to read me poetry, you pretentious prat. [That privilege is reserved for Alan Rickman. *youtubes blissfully*]

I don't want to tell you about what I'm doing with my life, or whether I have a job, or what kind of music I listen to. [And no, I've never heard Led Zeppelin]

It's none of your damn business.

I really don't want you to lean in close and eyeball my chest to ask who those people are, and I don't want to defend my choice of television show to you, either.

I don't care if the circle is the symbol of your family, although, wow, congrats for originality.

I don't care if your girlfriend wrote to you the other day, though I admit, I'm glad to hear she's returning to the country. Hopefully this means you're going to turn off your fixation on me and give her your entire and undivided attention. Please say that's so.

I must also admit, I am glad you've given up on wearing that leather jacket. Maybe that was the source of the unbearable stench you made me endure for an hour or so at the library.

So, ground rules.

From now on, don't say hello to me. Don't greet me on the bus or sit near me and try to carry on a conversation. Don't blather on at me for twenty minutes and expect me to care.

And maybe take a course in body language and non-verbal cues. Just because I'm not openly rude to you doesn't mean I'm encouraging you.

Doesn't the fact that I barely look at you, that I restrict myself to one-syllable answers where possible, that I never contribute much to the conversation and that I don't greet or farewell you tell you anything at all? Most people would see this as a series of clues indicating how unenthusiastic I am about maintaing any kind of verbal interaction with you, but no, you're oblivious!

Are you messing with me? Is this some bizarre social experiment, and I'm your labrat? Argh! Whatever. I honestly don't want to know anything more about you.

Just stop talking to me.

No love,
Me.
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RL issues:

I've never kept much of a division between my LJ and my real life. My identity is so interwined with the life I lead on the internet that trying to keep the two apart would be a headache. I know some people fiercely guard their identities in case their journals are exposed and it undermines their credibility in their everyday lives, but that never even occurred to me, and it's probably a little to worry about it now. [It'll suck if I want to run for Prime Minister in the future, lol, and something I said here torpedoes my campaign]

I considered the issue of online life affecting RL with a whole new perspective after Age columnist Catherine Deveny was fired because of some offensive and tasteless tweets she posted.

I don't particularly like what she had to say, especially of 11 year old Bindi Irwin ['I do so hope she gets laid', wtf?] but getting fired over it? I seem to be the only one that sees it as a huge over-reaction.

Yes, her tweets were repulsive, but I don't know that the average person is going to say, 'Oh, I'm boycotting the Age now because one of their columnists- apparently a comedian, from whom I'd expect a certain amount of vulgarity anyway- tweeted something rather offensive in what seems to be a bid for attention'.

Because come on, who'd seriously hold that kind of opinion anyway? It's clearly meant to draw attention and cause comment. Too bad for her it got her fired in the end.

So basically, if I'm going to say something really appalling, I better make damn sure it gets f-locked. None of you would tell on me, would you? :P
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Crazy Cabbie

While the public's shredding Catherine Deveny to bits for her tacky tweets, it's amazing to me that there's an equal amount of support for the taxi driver that had a 'brain snap' that resulting in him chasing a car of teens, ramming it once it blew a tire and then getting out to smash it to bits with a change dispenser and tyre lever.

Seriously, there's pages of letters in the newspaper hailing him a hero! WTF?!

I have issues with vigilantes, [and not entirely because had Threshold been renewed for a second season, Molly was apparently going to be paired up with the vigilante dude rather than Cavanaugh, epic fail!] and it bugs me that this guy's the object of adulation in the community. Even the people that disagree with his actions still seem to admire his gumption and wish they'd damned the consequences and done the same in their time. Ugh!

So, a bunch of kids throw eggs at his taxi- that's annoying, I get someone being pissed off about that. But to embark on a high-speed chase after them through red lights? Would anyone have the slightest sympathy for this guy if he'd accidentally mowed over a granny or a mother with her pram or a bunch of school-kids? This kind of reckless behavior could've caused serious injury or death. It's super lucky that the teens were able to keep control of their car while fleeing, and their the busted tire didn't send them hurtling into other cars, and that the cabbie's rage black-out didn't put other vehicles or pedestrians at risk.

The article says that at least one of the kids was in the car when he rammed into it, and the impact threw him 3m into the air- the cabbie's lucky that kid didn't end up in hospital. Yes, it's pathetic and juvenile what they did, but I don't think they deserved to have their lives put at risk because of a simple egging!

Public opinion is putting all the blame on the kids, and it's like they're holding these kids responsible for all the vandalism and bashings and murders committed by depraved youths that have ever occurred. Saying good on the cabbie for scaring the crap out of them, maybe it'll set them straight- if these were the kids that went around beating up grannies and such, heck, maybe I'd quietly approve, but they just egged his car, FFS, proportional response, please!

Considering the way our courts run, where a father gets a stricter penalty for punching out his daughter's rapist than the rapist himself received, I really hope this guy doesn't get off scot-free, he needs to learn there are consequences for his actions and that he's nowhere near being a bloody hero, that moron.
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Ban the Burqua?

The main camps of opinion seem to be:

a) Do it now before someone uses the burqua to conceal a bomb and people get hurt or killed.

b) It's hardly like we have burqa-clad gangs roaming the country, whereas thugs in trackies and hoodies seem to make a weekly appearance on Crime Stoppers- should we ban those, too?

c) The burquas are better at Hungry Jack's.
*gigglesnort* Irreverent, but hee...!

I'm against it. I mean, what a knee-jerk reaction. Yes, let's infringe on people's rights for something that might happen, that has never happened here before and might never happen at all. I get people are afraid, it's no surprise considering the terrorism-aware society we live in these days, and politicians want to look pro-active, but banning people from wearing an item of clothing is way too drastic for my tastes. It's a slippery slope, once they go there, I don't want to consider what they might legislate next. [Although banning girls and especially old women from wearing leggings as pants would definitely be appreciated- my eyes, oh god, my innocent eyes!]

But the thing is, just as many people for the ban aren't agreeing on national security grounds, they're for it because they see the burqa as the symbol of female oppression and want to liberate them from the attitude of male subjation that rules their culture.

'k, fair enough, people don't like the idea of women being regarded as inferior, good for you. But simply banning the burqua isn't going ot make a hell of a lot of difference. Probably that just means the women are going to be under virtual house arrest, either because the men won't let them shame their family or whatever by revealing their form outside, or because the women are uneasy with being forced to give up something that's defined their self-image their entire lives.

Look, I'm not saying I think it's a good thing, I'd hate having to wear one myself, but I'm not going to impose my views on them, I'm not going to say, 'Oh, I believe 100% that the burqua is evil and those women will be relieved to see it go and burn them in massive bonfires and celebrate their newfound independence and liberation, whoo!' I'm not from that culture, how can I possibly understand how the women are going to feel? Maybe some of them will be relieved at the official dispensation to give those things up, but...I can also see that some of them might not be able to figure out what to do after losing something so integral to their identity.

I'm not saying this is the same thing, but I had a kind of culture shock coming from Fiji to Australia. Back there, school was all about work, work, work and very little fun. We all took pride in studying and achieving our best, and respected our teachers and never, ever cheeked them. [Especially Mrs Karan, who had no patience for idiots and would wallop you over the head for not keeping up]

Then I move to Australia and all of a sudden, school's not about study, god, no, it's about friends and socializing and parties! I was totally wrong-footed, because all of a sudden, the work ethic I had developed, the ambition and need to prove my intelligence? That got me picked on by bullies, that had me singled out and humiliated by the other kids, and even the nice ones regarded me as this alien life-form.

And I still can't deal with parties, I've been forced to more than a few because of peer pressure, but I didn't grow up in this alcohol culture where kids from like, 14 want to drink and get smashed, and it makes me super uncomfortable and I never have a good time. [I'm sure I'm not the only one ever to feel like that, I'm not saying you need to grow up in Fiji to be like that, I'm just giving an example based on my own background]

So I think that maybe these women might feel something similar to that kind of culture shock. Maybe I'm overthinking the matter and they'll all be overjoyed at the legislation and embrace Australia for freeing them, but I don't think it'll be that simple. You can't take away the burqa and expect the mental attitudes to experience a similar shift. They've grown up thinking it represents their modesty and the value they have as women, I imagine it'd be troubling to lose it, even if part of them might be relieved. And if it's they believe that their religion expects them to be clothed a certain way and they're devoutly religious, then that's another thing that's going to freak them out.

I may not be fond of their cultural or religious beliefs, but shouldn't they have the freedom to practice it as they see fit? Sure, I draw the line at child brides and ritual stonings, but an article of clothing is in a totally different category, especially when it's something they might be attached to themselves, and not forced into. You can call it brainwashing, if you like, but that doesn't change the fact that a lot of them buy into this thing and believe it's vital for their ability to cope with the outside world.

So I guess my position on the whole issue is:

a) Don't ban it because of terrorist concerns. I need more proof that there is a vital threat posed by these women than 'oh, a bomb can be concealed in them'. That goes for many articles of clothing, not to mention backpacks.

And if it's an issue of ascertaining their identity, well, take them aside at the airport or bank and verify their identity in private with a female. It might be irritating, but not that hard to deal with. I don't think you need to ban women from wearing it in public, just going to get groceries or whatever, jeez.

b) Don't ban it because you don't like their religion. If you have an issue with it, that's one thing, but don't deny them the ability to practice their beliefs the way they want. If you really care, IDK, work on changing their self-image, making them want to give up the burqa, make it their choice instead of simply taking it away from them and expecting them to be grateful when you haven't given thought to their state of mind at all.

[Why am I thinking about Dollhouse and the way some fans said that Paul freeing November was just another example of taking her choices away from her and treating her as a child without the capacity to make her own life decisions?]
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Fandom.

Re: the Deathly Hallows movie- please check any fandom!wank at the door.

This is old news, but I was just snickering to myself about it. 

http://www.fanpop.com/external/9700889
http://harrypottering.com/gossip/Harry-And-Hermione-May-Get-Sexual-In-Potters-Deathly-Hallows-1236062.html
http://www.harry-potter-movie-buzz.com/news/742/harry-will-be-naked-and-make-out-with-hermione-in-deathly-hallows.html

R/Hr fans get their happy ending in the series but the highlight for the duo is a single kiss- and don’t get me started on how contrived and ridiculous the impetus for that kiss was. HOUSE-ELVES, I ask you. While there are Death Eaters trying to AK their asses! *headdeskwallfloor* 

Harmony shippers, otoh, well, their ship is non-canon-compliant but heck, their couple gets some serious action onscreen! What a consolation prize! So Daniel’s nude [AGAIN] and Emma’s stripped down…this is definitely going to fuel a million shipper vids! *g*

And this interview snippet is hilarious. What a hard life Emma leads!

KF: Did you and the other actors know what J.K. Rowling had planned for the seventh book in the series, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows? Or were you just as curious as the rest of us?

EW: Well, I was just as curious as everyone else. The only thing J.K. Rowling told me, she told me I would end up having to kiss both Dan [Radcliffe] and Rupert, and I was like, "No way!" This is before I read the last one, so I was like, "Oh, god." Because in the last one, Ron has a vision when he sees Harry and Hermione kissing in his vision, so I'm going to have to do that for the vision. Even though it doesn't actually happen, I still have to do it. I'm going to end up kissing both of them in the last film. Ugh, it's horrible. 
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Shows I just started watching.

Season 2 of True Blood. [Didn't care to sit through season 1]



Can I just say how much I love Jessica?! She's so gorgeous and adorable!

I love the way she's adjusting to being a vampire and how she plays with her abilities, like making that dude shout obsene comments at the top of his lungs, and she collapses into helpless giggles, aww! *squishes*

Also, LMAO at her getting trapped in the coffin. 'Hey, how the hell does this thing open? Someone help get me out of here!' And the coffin's fallen to the ground and bumping and tipping this way and that as she tries to get out. *wipes away tears* Hee!

I know Bill's all buzzkill, 'She can't be one of your girlfriends, she's a vampire, rarr, DANGER' but still, her innocent delight in discovering her new talents and pushing the boundaries with her abilities and with meeting that one special guy, it just makes me melt and fall in love.



Also also and, I really want her romance to work out with that chubby yet endearing tradie guy. I'm so afraid for her, because I don't think it's likely the writers are gonna let her be happy at this early stage- either he'll betray her, or he'll die.

And I don't think it's the former- he seems to genuinely care about her. Like the way he defended her to his mother, that savage satisfaction in telling her, 'The reason why Jessica calls me, all late at night like she does, is because she's a vampire'. He got so angry at his mother's insinuations about her character and took pleasure in enlightening her about Jessica's nature, and I don't think a con man or someone out to use and abuse her would be that emotional about it. Plus, driving all the way with flowers to let her know that he cares about her! D'aww! *squishes them both*

So if he dies, considering he's her first boyfriend ever, it's going to make her wish she was dead for real, and it's going to make me wibble and tear my hair out and smash some windows. Just- warn me if it's coming, okay? I'm a spoiler whore, I need to know in advance to prepare myself. *quivers*



I gotta say, I can see how some fans might consider her to be whiny and annoying, but I find her childish fits to be sympathetic and endearing. This kid got eaten and turned into a vamp against her will and now she's lost her family and everyone and everything she ever knew.

Plus, she's got to obey the guy that frakking killed her and is responsible for turning her life upside down, um, hell yeah, she's going to be a whole lot of trouble!

[This reminds me of The Wounded Guardian, by Duncan Lay, where the main dude killls the little girl's family and then has to take care of her, and his trouble with dealing with all her temper tantrums and demands for playtime with toys and everything, so very well done]

But the thing I like about her is that I get why she acts the way she does. It's not just an attitude she puts on, it's not gratuitous or indulgent, she has understandable issues and she's really very funny in the way she deals with them! She totally pwns Sookie. :P I wish the show was about Jessica and Bill. Their dynamic makes me ROFL, the way she's this stubborn, smart-mouthed teen and he's the old-fashioned, long-suffering parent figure. 'Your bedtime will be at 4 am and not a minute later. And whilst you're under my roof, hunting is completely forbidden'. Hee. 

Also! The award for Most Self-Aware Vampire goes to Bill Compton!

Sookie: I think, deep down, you don’t like vampires, even though you are one.
Bill: So?
Sookie: Well, hating yourself is a bad thing.
Bill: I am a vampire, I am supposed to be tormented.

LMAO, the writers were having too much fun, paying out the vampire cliche there! *gigglefit*
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10 Things I Hate About You

Father: Where have you girls been? It’s late.

Bianca: We were having sex with the soccer team, it took longer than expected.

Father: Funny. Young lady, get back-

Kat: Usually I enjoy this, but let it go. She’s had a tough day, nobody sent her a stinking carnation.

Father: Oh, I see. *does double-take* I’m sorry, are you experiencing sympathy?

Kat: Don’t get me wrong. She really shouldn’t let someone else’s opinion affect her like this. Who cares if some guy she’s barely met didn’t spend two bucks to buy her a flower? I mean, really, all she knows about this guy is that he’s rumored to be a cannibal.

*father starts and looks at her consideringly*

Kat: Still, when she didn’t get one, it upset her. what’s even more upsetting is that she even let herself care in the first place. She’s so pathetic.

*father smiles knowingly and Kat composes herself*

Kat: Poor Bianca.

Father: I’m going to go tell her that she’s right, no guy should be able to make her doubt how amazing she is, but I’m also going to tell her that part of high school is getting hurt and there’s no way to avoid it, she’s just going to have to learn to pick herself up and move on.

Kat: You should tell her that. She would really appreciate it.

I love this entire scene! Her father is so awesome and supportive and sympathetic, how cool is he?

And the way Kat seems to be talking about Bianca and then does a side-step into her own troubled state of mind, projecting it onto her sister because she can't accept that she let herself get so upset over not getting a stupid carnation from some try-hard she doesn't want to believe she cares for in the slightest...aww!

Then the way they both still pretend they're talking about Bianca, with her father letting her keep her dignity instead of going for the cheap shot while she's vulnerable, and how she lets him know she appreciates it... :D 

It's so rare to have a good father/daughter bond in these shows, it's great. *squishes them*
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Glee flail!



Unexpectedly, I am awash with renewed love for this show. I know I came down hard on it last week, but The Power of Madonna improved matters immensely.

Will! I loathed him so much in last week’s ep, and okay, he’s not entirely out of the doghouse, he should’ve confessed about making out with that other Glee coach instead of keeping it hushed up, but this…

Emma: It felt so good to be close to you in that way, I don’t know why I always freak out like that.

Will: Stop, stop, stop. You don’t need to sleep with me to prove anything. You took ownership of your body on Friday when you told yourself you weren’t ready and then ran out of my apartment with no shoes on.

Emma: They’re my favorites, did you bring them?

Will: I feel bad, Emma. I’ve been working so hard with the guys to start treating the girls with more respect and I haven’t been walking the walk. I never should’ve agreed to have you come over that night.

Emma: I did kind of throw myself at you.

Will: That is the point. We’re falling into a pattern. We need to institute an official no-dating policy until my divorce is final.

Emma: When will that be?

Will: I filed today, so that’s a start. But while we’re waiting, I want you to get some help for your problems. We need to take action here, they won’t go away unless we do. Now our health union covers counseling, they’ll come to the school, meet you in your office, whatever you need. And *produces shoes* I polished them myself.

Okay, when he brought up her problems, I took my cue from her. I was ready to be offended on her behalf at how bluntly he put it, but she appeared touched at the gesture. And I saw it from her POV as a really kind and caring thing to do- the other guys she may have tried out relationships with, they all bailed on her sooner or later, because they couldn't deal with her issues. And here's Will who knows what he's getting into, who's aware what a basket case she is, and still wants to be with her. Rather than running from her weirdness, he's committed to helping her work it out. I really like that.

Plus, he's not saying 'You're a freak, I need you to conform to be my image of an ideal partner', because look at how thoughtful he was, bringing her shoes back, all clean and polished! That did a great deal to redeem in my eyes, being that thoughtful and affectionate towards her.

What It Feels Like For a Girl
I love this song! I don’t know why, it’s nothing that special, but the chorus hooks me in, it’s so catchy and appealing and the way the guys sang it was brilliant. *squishes them all*

Kurt: This time shouldn’t work but it does because we respect each other’s talent. And if we want to take it to the next level, we have to start respecting each other as individuals, really see each other. Why were you singing with us, Mr Schue?

Will: Because apparently I need to learn that lesson.

*bounces* Finally! I can hate him less, because he's aware that he messed up, that he's at fault! It's characters that are self-deluded and act like they did nothing wrong that I hate the most, but when they admit they were wrong and try to rectify their mistake...I'm a sucker for that kind of thing. :P

Also, Finn’s not perfect, he made this comment to Rachel about how he never thought they’d lie to each other when she pretended not to be going out with Jesse, but then he lied about not hooking up with Santana, when it’s implied they did sleep together.

Still, this conversation went a long way to redeeming him as well.

Rachel: If you’re going to criticize and mock me again about Jesse, you can can it.

Finn: I wanted to apologize. The only reason you were even dating Jesse was because I was such an ass. Mr Tough Guy and all that. I really liked you. And I could have had you, but I blew it.

Rachel: You really liked me.

Jesse: Okay, Finn. I know we have a big showdown coming so let’s just decide on the arena. Sing-off, the parking lot, 5 o’clock, be there.

Rachel: No!

Finn: Welcome to New Directions. Frankly, I need you, I’m tired of carrying the male vocals all by myself.

*shakes hands*

Finn: I’ll do my best to stay away from your girl.

Jesse: I appreciate that. She’s a keeper.

Finn: Walk with me to the auditorium. I put together a new Madonna number, I’ll talk you through it on the way.

Jesse: Sweet.

*they walk off together*

I don't know how long that's going to last, but it makes me sympathetic towards Finn. Someone who's actively trying to sabotage another relationship and steal a partner, I loathe. They're selfish, thinking only of what joy that person could bring to their lives instead of what's best for the other person.

But this guy, who's willing to be the better man, who will apologize to Rachel and repair the damage he inflicted on her self-esteem without expecting anything in return, who welcomes her new boyfriend and extends an olive branch to him...this is a kid I really like. *squishes him* A lot of times, I'll see characters pull this routine when they're trying to gain points and get the other person to fall into their arms, and then get nasty if it doesn't happen, or are all smarmy and smug if it does. But he was totally sincere and I love this scene, because that's the way you show someone you care about them, when their happiness is more important than getting what you want. AWESOME.

PS. Damn picture, with its Rachel/Will vibes! Stop trying to make me ship them, universe! Your evil plot is doomed to fail! *flees*
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Meme.

*Snurched from weird_fin:

Fill in the blank with analogies describing our relationship. (ie., 'you're the pb to my j' or 'you're the yellow to my blue')

You're the ____ to my ___.

*Snurched from sunkrux:

Day 02 - A show that you wish more people were watching.

Fringe!



I am so in love with this show! It has intelligent, fascinating plots [I know, me watching for plot, ridiculous, right?! But it's true!] and charismatic, talented actors that breathe life into these wonderful, interesting, compelling characters [especially Walter, with his bizarre remarks and quirky foibles, hee].

And omg, it treats the audience like smart people, dropping little clues to allow us to develop theories about what's going on, hints about what happened to Olivia in her childhood, what happened to Peter in his childhood. They created a trail of breadcrumbs but weren't cruel and keeping us hanging for seasons on end, oh no! TPTB here think we deserve some reward for the time and emotional investment we make in the show. The last few episodes of the second season have just blown my mind, it is absolutely brilliant what they've been doing, the payoff in that resolution of the arc they built is so emotional and heart-wrenching and perfect.

And I cannot tell you how much I love Nina. The way she's her own person, this full-developed, three-dimensional character with her own agenda and motives. So many times, we get cardboard cut-outs as the plot dictates [someone for the protagonist to clash with, someone to provide them with assistance, blah blah blah], bland paper-dolls that prop up the storyline but not Nina! You could take away Olivia and the others and she would still exist in her own world, complete with a history and goals in life separate from providing a foil for the main characters, it's awesome.
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Comments

[luisa-f.livejournal.com]

How do you repel a guy without being totally rude about it?

Forget that not being rude nonsense, sorry but some guys don't seem to get it unless to tell them to fuck off in the most direct way, and since this guy is of no consequence in your life then you can have the luxury of being direct. Some guys think a nice rejection is just a woman begging them to try harder.

I don't need you to enlighten me on Marxist theory, nor do I want you to read me poetry, you pretentious prat

Does he shave his head and is he sporting a goatie? Those are the worst, unbearable self-obsessed pseudo-intellectuals. You can't take a step around uni without tripping over one of those.

I've never kept much of a division between my LJ and my real life

I'm so paranoid, I have never posted pictures of me on the internet, my mother laughs at me because I no longer allow anyone to take pics of me at family gatherings for fear of seeing them posted on Facebook.

So basically, if I'm going to say something really appalling, I better make damn sure it gets f-locked. None of you would tell on me, would you? :P

Never, but the thing is you never know with technology, there are hackers and just because it's flocked there is no guarantee, it's on the internet and anyone with enough knowledge and with a little effort can have access to everything that has ever been posted on the internet. If you posted it it's already out there and you've lost control of it.

Scared yet? LOL.

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

some guys don't seem to get it unless to tell them to fuck off in the most direct way

Lol, I'll keep that option in reserve, but for now, my indirect method of avoidance seems to be working. I took up another suggestion to just put on my music and pretend I can't hear him- it's working so far. ^_^

I'm not great at conflict, so if I can avoid that, it'll be better. I usually bend over backwards trying to avoid confrontation, I'm such a wimp. *eyeroll*

He doesn't have a shaved head, but he does have a goatie- I think. I literally do not look at his face if I can at all help it, so I'm a little fuzzy on what he looks like. I just recognize his voice, because as soon as I hear it, I'm like, 'Oh, crap! Hide!'

I have never posted pictures of me on the internet, my mother laughs at me because I no longer allow anyone to take pics of me at family gatherings for fear of seeing them posted on Facebook.

Wow, that is paranoid! I mean, I post pics of me now and then... *reconsiders the wisdom of this practice*

But it's freaky, because even if I never had, there'd still be pics of me online- I found photos of me from a convention posted on the internet! I guess the photographer was showing off his work or something, but it weirded me out.

If you posted it it's already out there and you've lost control of it.

YES, I am officially scared, thank you very much! *quivers* Oh, well, if it's out there already, what can I do now? *iz fatalistic*

[luisa-f.livejournal.com]

You're nicer than I am, I would have simply walked away and left him talking on his own, maybe throw a death glare for good measure.

Wow, that is paranoid!

I know, I can't used facebook for this reason, the mere thought of discussing any kind of really personal info on the internet where everyone can see. *shudder* I just can't understand how some people can be open, my brother and wife posted pics of their baby on facebook and I couldn't believe it because it's such a violation of privacy for this baby who can't even consent and people from all over the world can already see pics of her since the moment she was born. And to me that's so irresponsible. Because, okay, so you're an adult and want to post pics of yourself and that's your choice. But she's a baby and she can't decide yet.

YES, I am officially scared, thank you very much! *quivers*

Now you know how my mind works, sometimes I wish I didn't over-analyze things like this, but my brain works like this, cons before pros.

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Hee, I'm just not as assertive as I should be. *sighs wistfully* I'm a wuss, damn it.

it's such a violation of privacy for this baby who can't even consent and people from all over the world can already see pics of her since the moment she was born

Hmm, I get your point, that she might be horribly embarrassed about it when she grows up. But if it were me, speaking for my own part here, if the pics were just generic 'baby wrapped up in blanket' kinda pics, I wouldn't mind so much- but if they were awfully humiliating [like, my parents took naked baby pics of me! OMG, WHY?! And also pics of me in my obese phase, I was so overweight, it's disgusting], then I would have a serious problem with that.

But then, baby pics all kinda look the same to me, so it's not anything really identifiable or unique, y'know? People grow up and look totally different, so random strangers aren't going to be able to identify her on the street. *shudders* Now that would be freaky.

I wish I didn't over-analyze things like this, but my brain works like this, cons before pros

It's probably a good thing that more people should do, but I'm just lazy and can't be bothered. Which is silly when I watch Criminal Minds and know all the deviant things that sickos out there are capable of and really, info on personal life should not be aired online, but still... *shrugs* I guess I need for people to know me too badly to be smart about it.

[mcgarrygirl78.livejournal.com]

How about....you're the Coke to my rum. Separately they're awesome in their own way. Together, they never fails to bring the party : D

I've never watched 10 Things I Hate About You but I had a 8HUGE* love for that movie.....it sent me on like a decade love affair with Julia Stiles.

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Aww! Perfect! I love coke, so this is both flattering and appropriate! *squishes*

I really like the movie, but unfortunately, I got sick of that cliche of one party with a secret that would be hurtful to the other but blithely continuing the relationship and keeping mum about it til too late and the other party finds out and is devastated and breaks off all lines of communication, requiring a grand gesture from the transgressor. *eyeroll* It was fresh and interesting here, but then when every movie after it had the same plot...*headdesk*

Though at least here, the gesture was romantic and thoughtful. I hate those movies where the character does something huge and OTT and just plain ridiculous. Like, Never Been Kissed, that whole ballpark thing was lame. And it came off like it was about feeding her ego and reassuring her and putting her insecurities to rest when it should've been about the guy, damn it! I mean, what if he didn't want to put himself on show and make a spectacle of himself in front of thousands of people? *frowns* Ridiculous, ugh.

But don't mind me, I'm just a bitter old maid, lol.

[mcgarrygirl78.livejournal.com]

Well, I hate rom-coms for just that reason, they are all the same. They meet, fall in love, enter big secret/climactic moment, breakup, grand gesture, in love again. Give me a break. When Harry Met Sally started it and its about the only rom-com I like. Everyone else just followed suit with worst actors and paper-thin scripts. Seriously.....my hatred for rom-coms burns like the heat of a thousand suns. But I just loved Julia Stiles so much in that film, and Larry Miller as their father, I got over it.

Rum and coke it is *thumbs up*

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Yeah, for such a die-hard romantic, I loathe most rom-coms with a passion. [The only one I've loved is The Proposal. I will buy it on dvd someday!]

Most of the humor is from humiliating the chick, making the guy a real jerk or loser, they fall into bed when there is so little chemistry that I fail to understand why they're into each other, blah blah blah.

At least with When Harry Met Sally, they were friends for a long time before anything happened. One of my favorite scenes is just when they're in bed in separate locations, chatting on the phone while they watch the same movie on tv. I LOVE that. I WANT that kind of relationship in my life, damn it! *yearns*

PS. Did you know Larry Miller also plays the father in the series? He's the only actor that reprised his role on tv.

[mcgarrygirl78.livejournal.com]

Larry Miller is such a genius....I love that dude sooooooooo much.

My favorite part about When Harry Met Sally is how she hated him at first and just grew to love him as a person, with all his faults, and then fell in love with him. And of course, Bruno Kirby and Carrie Fisher as their best friends who fall in love. OMG, I love that movie so much : )

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

He's so awesome as the father, I really enjoy his scenes. I mean, he's OTT with the breathalyzer and urine tests, but somehow he makes being over-protective...almost endearing. I guess because he's not just making strict rules and being a gigantic pain, but we also see how much he loves the girls and how he supports them. Aww! *squishes them*

she hated him at first and just grew to love him as a person, with all his faults, and then fell in love with him

THIS. My favorite kinda ship, in fact, almost all of my ships start off either hating each other, or with some sort of initial animosity. Even Emily/Hotch had some of that, lol.

Oh, the best friends fell in love, too? I must see this movie again, I totally don't remember them...*racks brains*

[luxuria-oceanus.livejournal.com]

Okay, quickie-response:

Stalker-guy, you should tell him just that. Hopefully he'll go away on his own, but sometimes, what I do, is put on headphones and pretend I'm listening to music so people don't talk to me. If you can't do that in the library, then just tell him you'd like some quiet because you're focusing on something. When he asks what, just say, "Nothing I'm interested in sharing."

Maybe he'll get a clue.

Fandom-thoughts:

You skipped season 2 of True Blood? BUT WHY!? I mean, it's actually not as good as the 2nd, but, dude, Eric. ERIC. We meet Eric there and, y'know, the beginning is always important.

(No, neither Jessica or her beloved die... so far.)


Baaaah, I probably missed everything else, but I'm sleepy... can't respond well. Brain not functioning.

Also? WALTER!!!!

Dude. Fringe is breaking my heart. BREAKING IT!

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

I took up your suggestion and it's working well so far! As soon as I see or hear him, I pull out the mp3 player and plug myself in. Genius! *squishes you*

Okay, well, I didn't deliberately skip the first season, it's just that when I saw it was on and recorded it, the eps happened to be second season. And I fell in love with Jessica straight away, so I was okay with it. I'm sure foxtel will eventually replay the first one again, but I'm not biting my nails with anticipation, y'know?

And besides, Eric is in this season, too! It's all good! :P

I just saw the ep which showed us how he became a vamp [talk about going back to the start] and it sucked, I mean, that dude he's fiercely devoted to slaughtered his buddies, the ones who wouldn't leave him behind even though he was dying, and he just blithely joins Godric or whatever his name is? *frowns*

No, neither Jessica or her beloved die... so far

Whee! Concentrating on the first part of that and ignoring the second. THERE WILL BE A HAPPY ENDING, DAMN IT. *wills it*

*pets you* Hope you're functioning better when I see you next, darling.

And whee, WALTER! *twirls* Crazy how much I love this man!

*wibbles* Heartbreak? *ohnoes* I shall brace myself...

[paisleysnail.livejournal.com]

Ugh about library man. I had a couple of similar experiences at uni with a real weirdo who ASKED straight out for my name, then TOLD me his, even though I did not ask for it. He was super creepy ~shudders~ You have my sympathy. I think the problem with being polite and sort of monosyllabic is that idiots really don't get it. :(

I totally get you on the party scene. I can't drink - I have ridiculously low tolerance. And regardless, I am a bit of a control freak, LOL. That said, I can still enjoy a night out if I'm with good friends. I do enjoy getting all dressed up. :)

Dinners are always good. And daytime activities :D

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

God, these people need to be sent to social etiquette camps or something! It's like they don't know how to relate to ordinary people so they just barge into other people's lives and try to manufacture a relationship out of nothing. And yeah, I have a real problem with conflict and confrontation, so being rude isn't really an option. I used another flister's suggestion of putting on my mp3 and listening to music so I could ignore him without seeming too rude. ^_^ It's working like a charm so far!

I have ridiculously low tolerance

Have you actually been drunk? I've had a few drinks forced on me once, and I felt a little- buzzed?- afterwards, but I've never actually been tipsy. I kinda want to run an experiment on myself someday, under controlled conditions, just to see what it's like.

But oh, I hear you on the control freak issue- I can't do anything that would make me unable to guard my tongue or control my body properly in public, I have a fear of public humiliation, so you can bet I ain't drinking.

And hee, the best part of going out with people is dressing up! Wait, no, no, it's looking all pretty and taking photos with them! ^_^ I'm a camera whore, I admit it, lol.

Like, I'm getting together with a friend this Friday, I think, and I'm already rummaging through my wardrobe, trying to figure out what to wear. But he's notoriously camera-shy, so no photos. *pouts*

[paisleysnail.livejournal.com]

Oh yes, the mp3 is always a good option. You can even stop people on the streets handing you leaflets with an mp3. :)

I almost faint after about one drink. So yes, I have been tipsy/drunk..but for me is is a very slippery slope with no real gradations between top and bottom.

Enjoy your outing on Friday! :D

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Ha, I'd use it on the streets only I'm so unco. *facepalm* I'd get the wires caught up in something and hopelessly tangled up and the earbuds would fall out of my ear after a few steps...yeah, I don't know how normal people manage to walk, let alone jog, with their mp3s but it's a skill I've not mastered.

I almost faint after about one drink

Wow! That's low tolerance all right!

*pouts* If it happens, I'm not sure what's going on now... *sighs* Story of my life, I keep getting let down by people I think are my friends.

[undrwrldangel24.livejournal.com]

Awww Jessica and Hoyt are one of my favorite things about True Blood! I hope they get lots more screen time during season 3 :)

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

Yay! Someone else loves them, too! I find these two kids just so absolutely cute and I just want to squish them so hard! ^_^ I just hope it doesn't go down the angsty, tragic route- there's heaps of other characters that specialize in that, right? Leave Jessica and Hoyt out of it! They deserve a happy ending! *iz protective*

Whee, epic LotS moment! *glees over icon* Once my laptop's working properly again- after I delete a whole pile of crap off it, hopefully it'll be functioning okay again- I need to get back to work on my C/K fanvid. And all these touchy-feely moments are making it such fun and not even anything remotely like hard work, lol!

[woodchoc-magnum.livejournal.com]

Yeesh! That guy in the library has got to learn some basic social skills. I never start up conversations with people I don't know - and man, I hate it when you're looking up a TV show and someone leans over your shoulder and asks who it is. None of your damn business, looky lou!

Maybe that was the source of the unbearable stench you made me endure for an hour or so at the library.

Bleeeuuuuuurgggh. You poor thing. *snuggles*

I know some people fiercely guard their identities in case their journals are exposed and it undermines their credibility in their everyday lives

*raises hand sheepishly*

I'd be mortified if anyone I worked with knew my secret internet life.

As for that columnist.... I'm with you, she just wanted to provoke a reaction. And it worked. Negatively. But seriously, she said that about Bindi? Bindi may be incredibly annoying, but she's still a kid. Sheesh.

the taxi driver that had a 'brain snap' that resulting in him chasing a car of teens, ramming it once it blew a tire and then getting out to smash it to bits with a change dispenser and tyre lever.

*blinkblink*

What now?

He did that? For reals? Seriously?

That guy has a screw loose. Teenagers can be obnoxious and terrifying on the roads (in my hometown a couple of weeks ago, a 70 year old man was killed by a group of teenagers doing 130 KILOMETRES in a 60 zone. And the kid who was driving actually had the audacity to say the old guy was at fault on Facebook. *loads shotgun*), but that doesn't excuse the fact this guy chased them and caused them to blow out a tyre. FFS, call the cops, don't take the law into your own hands.

So, a bunch of kids throw eggs at his taxi- that's annoying, I get someone being pissed off about that.

That's it? That's all they did? Major overreaction alert.

Would anyone have the slightest sympathy for this guy if he'd accidentally mowed over a granny or a mother with her pram or a bunch of school-kids?

No, of course they wouldn't.

What a jackass.

Do it now before someone uses the burqua to conceal a bomb and people get hurt or killed.

My response to that is are they going to ban helmets or hats or balaclavas as well? Because if they're going to ban the burqua, you have to ban everything else that conceals your face as well.

whereas thugs in trackies and hoodies seem to make a weekly appearance on Crime Stoppers- should we ban those, too?

Yeah exactly thank you level headed people.

The burquas are better at Hungry Jack's.

THIS ONE!!

but banning people from wearing an item of clothing is way too drastic for my tastes.

Exactly.

they're for it because they see the burqa as the symbol of female oppression and want to liberate them from the attitude of male subjation that rules their culture.

Yeah but if you ban women from wearing the burqua in public, doesn't that mean the men won't let them leave the house? I mean, I can't say I'm a fan of the way women are treated in Islam, but it's their religion, their choice.

Next thing you know Islam will be banned in this country and all the Muslims will be forced into concentration camps. And it's sad that there are people who probably want that.

Probably that just means the women are going to be under virtual house arrest, either because the men won't let them shame their family or whatever by revealing their form outside, or because the women are uneasy with being forced to give up something that's defined their self-image their entire lives.

Yes, THIS. Thank you. You say everything so much more eloquently than I do!

That got me picked on by bullies, that had me singled out and humiliated by the other kids, and even the nice ones regarded me as this alien life-form.

Yeah, I can understand that. Kids are cruel, especially to people they don't understand.

[woodchoc-magnum.livejournal.com]

but I didn't grow up in this alcohol culture where kids from like, 14 want to drink and get smashed, and it makes me super uncomfortable and I never have a good time.

I'm from this country and I don't understand it myself. I never, ever had fun drinking at parties, and I don't drink alcohol to this day (and I'm 25 now). Alcohol makes me sad, why would I want to drink it? LOL

I'm going to end up kissing both of them in the last film. Ugh, it's horrible. 

LMAO

She leads such a hard life, I swear! :P

[Didn't care to sit through season 1]

OMG ARE YOU SERIOUS?

Season 1 is awesome. *waves proud Season 1 flag*

She's so gorgeous and adorable!

And kinda annoying but she did grow on me towards the end.

And okay reading your comments makes me think you're not that far into Season 2? So maybe I should just keep my mouth shut. :P

So if he dies, considering he's her first boyfriend ever, it's going to make her wish she was dead for real, and it's going to make me wibble and tear my hair out and smash some windows. Just- warn me if it's coming, okay?

He doesn't die. :)

I can see how some fans might consider her to be whiny and annoying, but I find her childish fits to be sympathetic and endearing.

*cough*

Look, I understand where she's coming from, but I don't watch True Blood for her. I'm all about Sookie (and Eric). Sookie is strong and independent and I love her to pieces. *squishes Sookie*

She totally pwns Sookie. :P

I AM AGHAST.

And here's Will who knows what he's getting into, who's aware what a basket case she is, and still wants to be with her. Rather than running from her weirdness, he's committed to helping her work it out. I really like that.

Yes, he redeemed himself to me, as well. Ooh funny story you may (not?) be interested in, I totally saw him in Season 2 of Sex & the City today as a waiter. I lol'd. :D

But this guy, who's willing to be the better man, who will apologize to Rachel and repair the damage he inflicted on her self-esteem without expecting anything in return, who welcomes her new boyfriend and extends an olive branch to him...this is a kid I really like. *squishes him*

I liked that too, even though he's a total snooze. But he's a good guy and I'm still hopeful Rachel will dump the obviously gay guy and hook up with Finn again. I'm probably the only one who thinks he's gay but still. ;-)

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

I'm from this country and I don't understand it myself. I never, ever had fun drinking at parties, and I don't drink alcohol to this day (and I'm 25 now). Alcohol makes me sad, why would I want to drink it? LOL

*high fives* Yay us non-drinkers, woohoo!

And I think it's partly born out of the desire to appear 'grown-up' [funny how kids want to demonstrate that through drinking and having sex but never productive ways] and also because parents give their kids drinks when they're young, I mean, I read in the paper about parents offering kids champagne on special occasions, like weddings and graduations, etc., which normalizes drinking at that young age. *shakes head*

LMAO

She leads such a hard life, I swear! :P

Yeah, being so gorgeous and so rich. *envies and hates just a little*

Season 1 is awesome. *waves proud Season 1 flag*

I suppose it's just because I read the book so I know basically what happens, and I'm bored by the Bill/Sookie thing, so I decided to come back when they were more settled as a couple instead of putting up with the new 'will-I-won't-I' drama of recently hooked up couples who still have a bunch of issues to work through. *yawns*

And kinda annoying but she did grow on me towards the end.

Annoying? Bite your tongue! Gah, I wish I could make people see characters the way I see them- I saw someone bashing Rachel yesterday and it just-I don't take it personally, really, but it still threw me and made me a little sad because that girl needs more love and understanding, damn it.

So maybe I should just keep my mouth shut. :P

No, no, no need to restrain yourself, I'm always happy to hear your opinions!

He doesn't die. :)

WHEE! *bounces*
I don't ship them exactly- he's too cute and roly-poly like a little puppy for me to ship- but I want her to be happy. ^_^

I don't watch True Blood for her. I'm all about Sookie (and Eric). Sookie is strong and independent and I love her to pieces. *squishes Sookie*

She totally pwns Sookie. :P

I AM AGHAST.

Lol, sorry! But Sookie...she's a strong character, yes, and I respect her, I don't have anything too bad to say, but she's just a little grating at times. And that gap in her teeth is distracting.

The thing is, I don't have a problem with her actions most of the time, but the way she says things...like when she encountered that mind-reader dude and she's all 'We need to stick together, exchange stories, have each other's backs' blah blah blah, it was so...whiny sounding, ack!

Okay, not whiny- but...I can't describe it, So earnest and pushy and just not even considering any other perspectives but her own. That's what bugs me, she's got these blinkers on all the time.

Yes, he redeemed himself to me, as well. Ooh funny story you may (not?) be interested in, I totally saw him in Season 2 of Sex & the City today as a waiter. I lol'd. :D

Never mind, he's sure to frak up again and we'll be back to loathing him! :P

Ha, he was a mere waiter in the movie. Did he get pushed around? *smirks*

I'm still hopeful Rachel will dump the obviously gay guy and hook up with Finn again. I'm probably the only one who thinks he's gay but still. ;-)

Lol, he does come off a bit gay, huh? :D OMG, imagine if he and Kurt had a thing! :O

Just curious, why do you want Finn and Rachel together? I want her happy and if he makes her happy, then I'll deal with it, but Finn's a blank slate of a character, he's...boring. SO boring.

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

I never start up conversations with people I don't know

Okay, guilty, but it's just things like 'good morning' or 'damn, the bus is running late', those kinda pleasantries when you're stuck with a few people and avoiding each other's eyes and the silence is uncomfortable.

Oh, and conventions are my major exception. These are my people! I walk up to complete strangers and start conversations on our fandoms, it's awesome. I spent three hours in line with some dude from Adelaide talking about Sarah Connor Chronicles, Stargate and a bunch of other shows. *sighs* Of course he'd be from out of state!

I hate it when you're looking up a TV show and someone leans over your shoulder and asks who it is. None of your damn business, looky lou!

Worse when he's staring at one's chest! I mean, okay, I'm sure he was just checking out my awesome CM t-shirt, but it felt awkward, y'know? Back off, already, lamebrain! And then to have the nerve...'What's it about?' / 'Serial killers and FBI agents who hunt them down.' / 'Ugh, why would you watch something like that?' WTF? HDU, DOUCHEBAG! *stabs*

Bleeeuuuuuurgggh. You poor thing. *snuggles*

IKR? *hides behind you gratefully*
Although I have to admit, it's not that bad these days, I think it must have been that jacket. Thank god it's gone!

*raises hand sheepishly*

I'd be mortified if anyone I worked with knew my secret internet life.

Really? But it wouldn't cause trouble for you, would it? I mean, bashing Russell and flailing over CM isn't going to make you risk losing your job or anything, right? But I was chatting with a fellow SSHG shipper who's in law and wanting to do big things someday [and she's so ambitious and motivated and smart, I have no doubt she will achieve all she wants] and I suppose...certain fandom interests might be a little embarrassing. Teacher/student ships, hmm, especially for a lawyer. Although it's hilarious, she told me about this Supreme Court judge who writes romance novels! The Lawyer and the Libertine, etc. :D

But seriously, she said that about Bindi? Bindi may be incredibly annoying, but she's still a kid. Sheesh.

Yeah, it was tasteless to the max, but people are jumping down her throat about advocating child abuse and statutory rape and it's like...FFS, she made a bad joke, she's not seriously suggesting someone go have sex with the kid!

He did that? For reals? Seriously?

That guy has a screw loose.

FOR REALZ. I'm not even kidding. It's terrifying to me how many people supported him acting so recklessly and think he's a hero! I think the word 'hero' is overused. When it applies to both a dangerous driver who attacks a group of kids and smashes up their car as well as a kid who sails her boat across the world [or nearly so, or whatever the technicality is], we need to come up with a new word.

Though I loved the way Jessica gently smacked down K-Rudd, 'I would like to disagree with the Prime Minister', LMAO!

[borg-princess.livejournal.com]

in my hometown a couple of weeks ago, a 70 year old man was killed by a group of teenagers doing 130 KILOMETRES in a 60 zone. And the kid who was driving actually had the audacity to say the old guy was at fault on Facebook. *loads shotgun*

Oh no! *sadface* That's so sad. I know a lot of people tend to get more emotional over little kids that are killed, because they never had a chance to experience life and all that, but it's the elderly I feel for, that's just reprehensible- and to have the nerve to blame the victim on Facebook? I only hope someone introduced that as evidence into the court case and gets him locked away for years longer, because he's demonstrated absolutely zero remorse and needs to be punished severely.

That's it? That's all they did? Major overreaction alert.

IKR? Kids from my high school regularly used to egg people for Muck Up Day [I don't think it happens anymore these days, though] and I shudder to think of the carnage if everyone they egged came after them with a tyre lever!

My response to that is are they going to ban helmets or hats or balaclavas as well? Because if they're going to ban the burqua, you have to ban everything else that conceals your face as well.

RIGHT ON. ITA. The only thing is that burqas are always worn by these women outside the house, whereas people don't make a habit of wearing helmets and balaclavas 24/7, so I guess that downgrades them as a risk. But they can still plant a bomb wearing one of those things you mentioned and run off without anyone able to identify them, so that makes going after the burqa totally suss.

if you ban women from wearing the burqua in public, doesn't that mean the men won't let them leave the house? I mean, I can't say I'm a fan of the way women are treated in Islam, but it's their religion, their choice.

IKR? I thought people had freedom of religion in this country, but it looks like they want to take that away. *frowns* And exactly, the women are just going to be kept locked up if they can't be appropriately covered. But I guess the politicians would feel like they had a victory- 'There are no more women wearing burqas in public, how awesome are we for liberating them?' and ignoring the repercussions, which means they'd just be restricted to their homes. Great move.

Yes, THIS. Thank you. You say everything so much more eloquently than I do!

Aww, thank you! But you make everything much wittier and more humorous than I ever could!

Kids are cruel, especially to people they don't understand.

*eyeroll* In Year 7, I got a Valentine's Day rose proclaiming to be from one kid, just so that everyone could laugh at the horror of being linked with me. Real funny, guys. And the others came up with this ridiculous rumor of a love triangle between me and the other two 'foreign' boys in the class. Yep, our year was so racist.